((PKG)) CHILD MARRIAGE: ASHLEY DUNCAN
((Banner: Child Marriage: Ashley))
((Reporter: Carolyn Presutti))
((Camera: Mike Burke))
((Edited by: Phil Dierking))
((Map: Steele, Missouri))
((NATS))
((Ashley Duncan, Steele, Missouri))
My name is Ashley Duncan. I’m 25. I live in Steele, Missouri. I’m a stay-at-home mom and I’m a Christian. I have four boys. I have a 7 year-old, an 8 year-old, a 5 year-old and a 4 year-old. I got married when I was 15. I had just found out I was pregnant, like, not long before I got married because I got married in February and I found out I was pregnant at the late January. I met Daniel on a school bus. I was actually 14 when I met him. He was, like, very quiet and mysterious and, I guess, my 15-year-old brain was into quiet and mysterious. We got together. We had talked about it, to get married, but we never actually said that it was going to be something that I did because I was pregnant. And I was 15, Daniel was 18, and my family had believed that in the state of Missouri, that if you are over 18 and have intercourse with anybody under 18, that it was statutory rape or something. So, they had told us that he would go to jail whenever I had my child. I was pregnant and just going with what they told me to do. Didn’t find out until last year that that’s not the law here in Missouri. So, I could have had my child without him going to jail. So, I was coming home from school. I had just found out I was pregnant. My aunt got on the bus and she told me to get off the bus, that I was going to go get married that day. All I can remember is hearing all those kids gasping and was like, ‘She’s too young.’ We went to the courthouse and got our marriage license, and then we went to a preacher’s house here in Steele and he married us. I don’t think either one of us realized how big of a commitment we were making then. I know that day, I think, I was happy, but I know I was, there was definitely fear and doubt in my mind. I mean I was happy that I was about to do what I thought would start a family and I was excited more for the future than, I think, I was for the present. We fought a lot and we eventually split up and I didn’t go back. You know when you’re young, you tend to believe people when they tell you that they love you, and then you also tend to listen to people when they tell you to do things. So, I dropped out of school whenever I found out I was a few months pregnant. I haven’t really had much studying since then. I had a lot of friends. I had a lot of sleepovers. I was always talking to my friends, always doing something with them, and whenever I decided to get married, friends didn’t really come around anymore. A few months after I got married, my cousin got married. She was also 15. She was two months younger than me. And then, my other cousin, he got married at the end of that year, and he was 16. I wasn’t the first one in Steele to get married. I knew it happens more often than not. I can name at least four from my school, besides my family. Now, I feel like I wasted so much of my life, and it didn’t have to happen. I just wish people would realize what they are doing. I mean, I don’t regret my kids at all. Just wished I would have done things differently.
((Banner: Child Marriage: Ashley))
((Reporter: Carolyn Presutti))
((Camera: Mike Burke))
((Edited by: Phil Dierking))
((Map: Steele, Missouri))
((NATS))
((Ashley Duncan, Steele, Missouri))
My name is Ashley Duncan. I’m 25. I live in Steele, Missouri. I’m a stay-at-home mom and I’m a Christian. I have four boys. I have a 7 year-old, an 8 year-old, a 5 year-old and a 4 year-old. I got married when I was 15. I had just found out I was pregnant, like, not long before I got married because I got married in February and I found out I was pregnant at the late January. I met Daniel on a school bus. I was actually 14 when I met him. He was, like, very quiet and mysterious and, I guess, my 15-year-old brain was into quiet and mysterious. We got together. We had talked about it, to get married, but we never actually said that it was going to be something that I did because I was pregnant. And I was 15, Daniel was 18, and my family had believed that in the state of Missouri, that if you are over 18 and have intercourse with anybody under 18, that it was statutory rape or something. So, they had told us that he would go to jail whenever I had my child. I was pregnant and just going with what they told me to do. Didn’t find out until last year that that’s not the law here in Missouri. So, I could have had my child without him going to jail. So, I was coming home from school. I had just found out I was pregnant. My aunt got on the bus and she told me to get off the bus, that I was going to go get married that day. All I can remember is hearing all those kids gasping and was like, ‘She’s too young.’ We went to the courthouse and got our marriage license, and then we went to a preacher’s house here in Steele and he married us. I don’t think either one of us realized how big of a commitment we were making then. I know that day, I think, I was happy, but I know I was, there was definitely fear and doubt in my mind. I mean I was happy that I was about to do what I thought would start a family and I was excited more for the future than, I think, I was for the present. We fought a lot and we eventually split up and I didn’t go back. You know when you’re young, you tend to believe people when they tell you that they love you, and then you also tend to listen to people when they tell you to do things. So, I dropped out of school whenever I found out I was a few months pregnant. I haven’t really had much studying since then. I had a lot of friends. I had a lot of sleepovers. I was always talking to my friends, always doing something with them, and whenever I decided to get married, friends didn’t really come around anymore. A few months after I got married, my cousin got married. She was also 15. She was two months younger than me. And then, my other cousin, he got married at the end of that year, and he was 16. I wasn’t the first one in Steele to get married. I knew it happens more often than not. I can name at least four from my school, besides my family. Now, I feel like I wasted so much of my life, and it didn’t have to happen. I just wish people would realize what they are doing. I mean, I don’t regret my kids at all. Just wished I would have done things differently.
